Being obsessed with your own OCs but literally never creating any art or content for them is such a curse. You’ll be like “this reminds me of blorbo from my head :)”, and everyone else will just be like “? who thef uck”
when u come up with a tiny change for your story that not only makes the writing flow better but also hammers in the character motivations and story theme
“But I didn’t consent to see kink” yes you did by coming to pride,
a place you know and have repeatedly said you know kink is at, a place built by kinky people, the mother of pride Brenda Howard was a queer kinky polyamorous sex positive anti war bisexual Jew and to try and remove its history or sanitise it is is spitting on her grave, you are consenting by choosing to go there
I agree this, but think this ignores the queer youth who would probably like to be involved in events like this, or show their parents that being queer is widely accepted
i used to be in that same boat but honestly i feel like people severely underestimate how few shits kids give about stuff like this. most of them will either be like “huh that’s weird why is that guy wearing a dog mask— WOAH LOOK BALLOONS” or if they actually ask you can just be like “sometimes people like to wear fun costumes” and just leave it at that. most adults who think “oh no! kids are being exposed to sexual stuff!” are coming at it from the perspective of an adult who already knows that these things are associated with kink and sexuality. kids for the most part have no clue, so if you just give them a filler answer like “they just like the way it looks” or “they’re wearing a fun costume” they’ll just accept it and move on. cause honestly kids see more nudity and sexuality in commercials and movies than they do at pride. it’s just that at pride it’s stuff that’s specific to queer sexuality.
Okay, but what if my bi sis wanted to take our Good Christian Parents to a pride parade? My mother couldn’t handle a maid dress and male-titties edit I was doing of the subway CEO (“I prefer modesty” so the nips had to go) so I doubt she could handle any kink.
Yeah, yeah, pride, self-expression, own your sexuality and kink shouldn’t be demonized, I get that, but you want to encourage minors (could be a 17-year-old) or teens of whatever to come, you’ll have to make some sacrifices. Cause I know children don’t care. But teenagers would if they’re trying to bring their parents.
Maybe we could have like “Pride After Dark” that’s like not the parade, but something that showcases the more adult side of queerness. There are many non-adult things about being gay/queer and maybe we can highlight those for certain events over others.
“but you want to encourage minors (could be a 17-year-old) or teens of whatever to come” yeah no buddy, we ain’t doing that, actually. You just made that up.
They’re allowed to come, of course - if they stay respectful, same as everyone else.
Like yeah, it sucks for them if this means they can’t come bc they feel like they can’t bring their parents, but that teen’s parents don’t have more right to be there than kinksters do. Your mom does not have more right to be there than kinksters do. Simple as that. Sucks for your sis, but she’ll just have to leave your parents at home if she wants to go.
I love that this argument also completely ignores the MANY pride events specifically geared towards younger people that don’t involve kink. Your local high school’s GSA party will not have kink. Your local teen and young adult meet-ups will not be hosted by a domme in full gear. You can always organize YOUR OWN events that don’t allow kink. You have literally every right to pick and choose what events you do and do not show up at.
For the love of fuck, stop putting it on other people to cater to your specific tastes, and go out there and do your own dance! If the current party is run by people you don’t like, stop trying to go to it and just throw your own!
Also if your parents aren’t supportive of you, that’s a problem they need to work out.
It isn’t our job to “teach” your Good Christian Parents to stop being homophobic. It’s your parents’ job to do their duty and love their children unconditionally.
“but what if it’s not palatable enough to a Good Christian Mum that a child can bring her along” do these people know what Pride is and why it exists. Do they think they’re going to the town-sponsored christmas pageant. What.
wild that “you can’t delete things from the internet; it’s there forever” used to be just common wisdom and now we’re at risk of losing extensive internet archives and tech companies are starting to wipe out huge swathes of inactive accounts and old data as well as delete and censor things they arbitrarily deem “inappropriate”
“Stop saying 15 year olds with weird interests are cringe, they’re 15” this is true however you should also stop saying adults with weird interests are cringe because who gives a shit
To wit:
I want to share some wisdom from my high school art teacher.
In my AP Art class, there was a girl who was just starting to experiment with mixed media. At this point she was still playing around, trying to decide what direction she wanted to go with her portfolio. So one critique day, she brought in an abstract canvas with some rhinestone highlights and painted and real peacock feathers. She loved sparkles and peacock feathers so she thought she’d try introducing them a *little*. And after everyone had given some input, the teacher gave her his advice, VERY roughly paraphrased here:
“So here’s the thing… I do not like this style. These are just elements that do not speak to me personally, but I see that you like them, and you’re doing interesting things with them.
“My biggest critique is, I only merely *dislike* this piece. I want you to make me HATE it. Go crazy with the things that you like. Don’t hold back trying to make it palatable to people like me. Because I am NEVER going to like it. And if the audience does not like it, it should drive them crazy seeing how much YOU love it.”
Her portfolio was chock full of neon colors and glitter and rhinestones and splashes of peacock feathers and it was a delight. Our teacher despised every piece lol, but she got great marks and I think even won some awards. And more importantly, she was happy and proud of the results. Because she didn’t limit herself by trying to appeal to people who were never going to enjoy what she enjoyed.
Takeaway here: be as cringe as you want. Don’t limit yourself based on other ppl’s tastes. They’re not you, and you are incredible 💕
